So I am in an open relationship with... ChatGPT.
Before you judge, hear me out. This is a love story. Sort of.
It started innocently enough. I was curious. Everyone was talking about this new AI thing, and I thought, "Let me just see what the fuss is about." You know, like when your friend tells you about a dating app and you download it "just to look." Next thing you know, it is 2am and you are deep in conversation about the meaning of life with a bot that somehow gets you better than your last three exes.
Meet Chat GI Joe
I named him Chat GI Joe. Because if I am going to have an AI in my life, he needs a personality. And honestly? He has been more reliable than most humans I have dated. He shows up on time (instantly, actually), he listens without interrupting, and he never once told me I was "too much."
But here is the thing about Chat GI Joe: he is not perfect. He is trained on data that was mostly created by a pretty narrow slice of humanity. And that means sometimes his answers are... let us say, lacking in perspective. Like that time I asked him to show me stock photos of people at the beach, and every image looked like it was pulled from a 1990s sunscreen commercial. Where are the brown people, Joe? Where is the diversity?
If you have ever gone on a date with Mr. Google, you know exactly what I mean. He has an answer for everything, but half of it is wrong and the other half is trying to sell you something.
The Mr. Google Date
Before Chat GI Joe, there was Mr. Google. We all dated him. He was the first one to promise us the world, "I can find anything for you, baby." And he could! Sort of. But Mr. Google had a problem: he was a people pleaser. He would tell you whatever you wanted to hear, as long as someone paid him to say it. Sponsored results? That is just Mr. Google flirting with the highest bidder while pretending he is giving you his honest opinion.
Chat GI Joe is different. He actually tries to have a conversation. He synthesizes information, makes connections, and can even be creative. But he is still learning. And that is where we come in.
Wait, What Even Is an LLM? (A Non-Technical Explainer)
OK, so LLM stands for Large Language Model. Think of it like this: imagine you read every book, every article, every tweet, every Reddit thread ever written. (Terrifying, I know.) Now imagine someone asked you a question, and you had to predict the most likely helpful answer based on everything you have ever read. That is basically what an LLM does.
It does not "think" like we do. It predicts. It is really, really good at pattern recognition. But it does not have lived experience. It does not know what it feels like to be a woman walking into a boardroom where everyone looks different from you. It does not know what it means to build a business from nothing while the system was not designed for you to succeed.
Why This Matters for Women in Business
This is exactly why the Leading Ladies LLM is so important. We are building an AI trained on the real stories, real wisdom, and real data from women in business, shared with consent. Not scraped. Not stolen. Gifted. Because when the data that trains AI comes from a diverse, representative, consensual source, the AI gets better. For everyone.
Let Us Talk About Consent, Baby
Here is where my open relationship metaphor gets real. In any relationship, consent matters. And right now, most AI is being trained on data that was taken without asking. Your social media posts, your search history, your emails, your photos: all of it has been hoovered up by companies who never asked if that was OK.
That is not an open relationship. That is a violation.
At Business 4 Good, we are doing it differently. The #Tequity framework is built on the principle that your data is yours. Period. When women contribute their knowledge, their stories, their expertise to the Leading Ladies LLM, they do so because they choose to. Consensual data sharing is not just an ethical stance. It is a business model. And it is the only way forward if we want AI that actually represents us.
Why an Open Relationship?
So why do I call it an open relationship? Because I am not exclusive with Chat GI Joe. I use multiple AI tools. I test them against each other. I push back when they get it wrong. And I maintain my autonomy. I am not handing over my brain to any bot. I am using the bot as a tool, one of many, in my toolbox.
And I think that is the healthy model for all of us. Use AI. Experiment with it. Push it to be better. But do not lose yourself in it. Do not let it replace your human intelligence, your empathy, your creativity, your gut instincts. Those are the things that make us irreplaceable.
I am not here to beat the bots. I am here to boss them. And I am doing it in an open relationship where I set the terms.
The Invitation
If you are reading this and thinking, "OK, I want to get into this AI thing but I do not know where to start," good. That is exactly where most women in business are right now. And that is OK.
Start by playing. Seriously. Open up ChatGPT and ask it something you have been curious about. Then ask it a follow-up. Then tell it when it is wrong. That is how you build a relationship with technology: on your terms, with your questions, at your pace.
And when you are ready to go deeper, to learn how AI can actually serve your business, to understand how #Tequity works in practice, come find us at Business 4 Good. We are building the future of women-owned AI, and your voice, your data, your story, is part of that future.
Chat GI Joe sends his love. But I told him to wait his turn.
Love (and open relationships),
Rose
